PlayerRep said:Griz2k said:PlayerRep said:What a bummer. I hope the Cats play extra hard at 2 today. I assume it will be an emotional game for the coach and team.
Agreed. That being said, Coach Fish is obviously a stronger man than I. Everyone grieves differently, but how in the heck do you coach a basketball game the day after your child's death? Can't imagine the pain he's going through. Perhaps his way of coping? Prayers for him and his family.
When we lost a young child, my wife and I just got up from the floor after the funeral and kept doing our normal life, while getting great support from family and friends. One day at a time. There didn't seem to be any reason not to do that, or to do little or nothing and dwell on it. We also had 4 other kids to deal with, and had a 5th a couple years later. The pain doesn't go away, but time does heal.
Silvertip said:"I didn't protect my daughter. I didn't protect her. And I've got to live with that for a long time." Those are the saddest and most concerning words from Brian Fish - or from any father for that matter. I pray that he finds peace...
ilovethecats said:PlayerRep said:Griz2k said:PlayerRep said:What a bummer. I hope the Cats play extra hard at 2 today. I assume it will be an emotional game for the coach and team.
Agreed. That being said, Coach Fish is obviously a stronger man than I. Everyone grieves differently, but how in the heck do you coach a basketball game the day after your child's death? Can't imagine the pain he's going through. Perhaps his way of coping? Prayers for him and his family.
When we lost a young child, my wife and I just got up from the floor after the funeral and kept doing our normal life, while getting great support from family and friends. One day at a time. There didn't seem to be any reason not to do that, or to do little or nothing and dwell on it. We also had 4 other kids to deal with, and had a 5th a couple years later. The pain doesn't go away, but time does heal.
It’s so tough. I lost my older brother summer of 94. I believe I hiked hylite with some family friends the next day. I went to a movie the day after his funeral. You’re shocked and just do what you do.
Sorry to hear about your loss PR. Can’t imagine.
Silvertip said:With all due respect to your own loss PR, "Bummer" hardly rises to the level of describing the loss of a child. Google's definition "a thing that is annoying or disappointing" seems to agree...
Ursa Major said:Silvertip said:With all due respect to your own loss PR, "Bummer" hardly rises to the level of describing the loss of a child. Google's definition "a thing that is annoying or disappointing" seems to agree...
I know this is eGriz but I’m not sure this is the right place or time to quibble semantics.
Silvertip said:Ursa Major said:Silvertip said:With all due respect to your own loss PR, "Bummer" hardly rises to the level of describing the loss of a child. Google's definition "a thing that is annoying or disappointing" seems to agree...
I know this is eGriz but I’m not sure this is the right place or time to quibble semantics.
Come back when you're sure...
Silvertip said:With all due respect to your own loss PR, "Bummer" hardly rises to the level of describing the loss of a child. Google's definition "a thing that is annoying or disappointing" seems to agree...
Ursa Major said:Silvertip said:Ursa Major said:Silvertip said:With all due respect to your own loss PR, "Bummer" hardly rises to the level of describing the loss of a child. Google's definition "a thing that is annoying or disappointing" seems to agree...
I know this is eGriz but I’m not sure this is the right place or time to quibble semantics.
Come back when you're sure...
OK, I’m sure. If PR and others are willing to share painful and personal sentimental stories on here to offer support to others, you should have enough respect not to criticize their choice of words.
PlayerRep said:Ursa Major said:Silvertip said:Ursa Major said:I know this is eGriz but I’m not sure this is the right place or time to quibble semantics.
Come back when you're sure...
OK, I’m sure. If PR and others are willing to share painful and personal sentimental stories on here to offer support to others, you should have enough respect not to criticize their choice of words.
Thx, Ursa.
Grizbeer said:PR - as a father who lost my 24 year old son to suicide in July, bummer works for me. Sucks is fine also. Really F'd up probably says it best. Thanks for sharing your story, it helps.
Bless you. As someone whose family has experienced several suicides, I too recognize the necessity of going on with the "ordinary." If you can get through one day, you can probably make it through the next one.Grizbeer said:Thank you, yes it's horrible. I don't really have and advice to offer anyone else dealing with this. I don't know (or need to know) the circumstances of the Fish families loss, but yes I am completely on the same wave as his stated feelings of loss and guilt, and totally understand why he coached on Saturday night. My son died on Thursday and as a family we decided to run (walk) the half marathon we had been planning all year. It was therapeutic to do something you had planned, just to feel like life could still go on.
His memorial service was on a Thursday and I went back to work the following Monday. It was (is still) incredibly difficult to get through the day, and the quality of my work was not good, but I do think it helps to push towards living life again.