UMGriz75
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The problem is "what to do about it." The prevailing solution is to impose on males the entirety of the responsibility, while drunk, and absolve entirely, the female, while drunk.Born2BaGriz said:The overwhelming theme in the book is binge drinking and impaired choices. Secondly, in general our lack of acknowledgement that rape isn't limited to an unknown assailant in a dark alley. I wish I had the answers, because it keeps me awake at night sometimes when I think of my two girls out there. No woman deserves to be raped, we all understand that and I think would agree with that premise.
Will that "solve the problem" or simply create more injustice?
The contrast in standards -- diametric opposites -- presumes that women are fragile, easily exploited, and invariably irresponsible when drunk.
It's a nice bit of sexism all on its own. That's exactly the opposite of what women should be taught and encouraged to do: take responsibility, take control, and manage their lives and social habits.
Binge drinking is a problem on campus, but statistically, the incidence of rape is lower than among similar non-college young people of the same age group, and the rate has been declining substantially for the past 20 years. Apparently, "alcohol awareness" programs have had success, but that had to have been because of an emphasis that it is a "problem" for both young men and woman.
And alcohol is certainly not "the" driver of rape claims. The astonishing number of demonstrably false claims, given wide prominence precisely because they were supposed to be representative of the "narrative" -- a'la Rolling Stone, Mattress Girl, Duke LaCrosse, the "UM Gang Rape," and Brian Banks -- are claims made days or even months after the "events," and made more so in reference to intervening social causes and needs; indeed that "alcohol" was the pretext for the claim, not the cause. "I was drunk" becomes an exculpation for women, and a conviction for men.
Recall the days of segregated dorms, chaperones, all sorts of rules, and the "liberation" from those restrictions because of their "overprotectiveness" of women, who should instead be treated as social equals, completely capable of monitoring their own lives and interactions. Because, "equality!" Now, women are being infantilized in precisely the same way as early Co-education efforts. "Women cannot be responsible." While that has political power against social justice targets, is that really the appropriate message?
I am noting here the quoted comment. These are not dark alley encounters. These are social situations in which all parties have some measure of control.